LOCK –UP YOUR PEACE

In our day to day life, it is in fact amazing to think that most of us spend at least two-third of our time for accumulating, taking care and retaining money & other material possessions. It includes even simple day to day activities like Cleaning and locking the house, vehicle maintenance, managing bills, shopping, locking up the treasures in bank, working hard the entire day to accumulate more possessions, searching for ways to enhance the possessions and the list goes on. Anything done apart from that is done just for the sake of it.

If we think a little deeper, anyone will accept that whatever is being done is with the underlying objective to get “Peace”; if not immediately, at least in future. This is the buried subtle truth in the heart of any individual. Be it a beggar or a terrorist, they have their own ways to accumulate their possessions and they do what they do to conquer their inner Peace.

When we are doing so many things, are we remaining peaceful the entire day? How many times in a day, we are letting our inner peace being robbed just in a moment, by innumerable intruders like anger, greed, jealousy, ego, fear, attachment, lust, worries, stress, guilt, frustration… name it whatever!? What have we done to lock-up our most wanted peace within ourselves?

No matter what the situation maybe, every moment it is our duty to examine and safely lock-up our peace at the thought level leading to word level and that leading to action level. It is by doing so, that the fulfillment of living a fruitful life can be achieved. There are five locks that can safeguard our peace from any of the intruders. Two locks for thought level (positive thought and acceptance), one lock for word level (mouth lock) and two locks at action level (love and detachment).

Lock 1: The most important lock for peace is “Positive Thought”. Our thoughts have amazing powers to control over our body, mind and even the entire universe. So, it is very essential to watch over our thoughts and cut off any negative thought that is stealing the peace at the very root level itself. It is very essential that every thought of ours has to be vibrant with positive energy and so will it be reflected in our words and action too. There are two tools that can help us in achieving this: hope and self-control. Anything can be changed or regained only with one light of hope always burning in you. Fill your thoughts completely with the hope of having the future you aspire to have. Secondly, it is very essential to control our inner nature that includes the negative traits/anything that is going to take out the peace of people around us at the thought level itself.

Lock 2: The second lock is “Acceptance” of people and situations. Acceptance gives the courage to face anything in life with the in-built faith that the end result can definitely be made positive. When the people and situations are accepted as they are, it not only helps in retaining our peace but also render space and sharpen our mind to pull out the best solution possible. The tools that will help us in acceptance of people are empathy and forgiveness. The tools that will help us in acceptance of situations are courage and faith.

Lock 3: The third lock is for the mouth. We are already provided with two natural locks for our mouth (the teeth and lips). Any word out of the mouth has to surpass these two locks. This is itself a symbolic representation of how controlled one has to be over words. Most of the time peace is lost when one lets of the words without any necessity or without the deep analysis of the consequences. Silence by itself is a wonderful tool we can practice under any negative situation that we sense. In the scale of positive words to negative words, the peace quotient will be max when our words are entirely positive and decreases so and so the more the negativity we use in our words.

Lock 4: The fourth lock is “Love”. When you truly love yourself and love each and everything you do, that love will spread to other people around you also through you. You would then start loving this entire world. That love will bring you all the success and happiness you desire in your life and you will be blessed with abundant peace. For, love is the most powerful source of energy based on which the universe is operating. Any change for good is possible, only with love.

Lock 5: The fifth lock for peace is “Detachment” from people and material possessions. You can give your entire love and time to all people around you. You can conquer the whole world and live the life of a king. All these can be done with one thought ruling you that ‘the world is just a temporary space for yourself, anything and everything’. This thought is only going to help you to love and conquer in a more peaceful way as, you will not have any expectations from people nor will any failure disturb you.

Any situation in life where your peace is on stake can be safeguarded using any one or more of these locks. And, having done so, last but not the least, do you remember what we normally do after locking? Yes ! checking if we have locked it fine. So ask the question to yourself “Am I in Peace now?”.

Marriages are made in heaven? !

Shyam was very excited about his marriage being fixed. With all joy, happiness and expectations he lay on his bed dreaming about his to be wife and their life after marriage… And, eventually dozed off.

In that blissful moment, God appeared in his dream. Shyam got so delighted seeing God. God spoke to him : “ You must be knowing that marriages are made in Heaven, I am here to greet you a very happy married life. In accordance to the same, I can grant you any boon you ask for. Ask me whatever you feel, can help you lead a very happy married life.”


Shyam was all the more thrilled about this offer and decided that he had to make the best use of it. So, he started to list.


Shyam: Well, First and foremost I want my wife to love me to the core as now & forever till death.
God: Great! Is that the only thing you want?
Shyam: Not only that. I have a big list. She has to appreciate me and support me always and help me achieve all the success in my career and my family. She should know me from head to toe and empathize with me when any decision has to be taken. She should take care of me like a child, listen to my problems and be a good companion to nurture my interests and talents, be health conscious, take care of me & my family members and be loyal and honest with me. Above all she should tolerate any of my mistakes or when I am in mood out/sad, with all the patience, she should guide me in the right path with an ever- smiling face. She should know whatever I like and always keep me happy with sweet surprises and lots of happy moments.
God: I am happy that you have understood the essence of marriage. I shall grant you this boon provided you answer right for my two questions:
Question1: Do you possess all the above qualities you asked your wife to have?
Shyam: Well… not all. But, yes I possess at least half of it.
God: All right !!
Question2: If you have to entirely cultivate all these qualities completely in you, how long do you think it will take for you?
Shyam: I am sure that if my wife is given all these qualities, it will not be difficult for me to reciprocate.
God: Shyam, it will not be fair and right on my part to give you someone who is full of love when you are at times hostile, or a person so caring and understanding when you are at times selfish or not ready to empathize.


Marriage is a lifelong education. It is where you and your partner make adjustments and aim not merely to please each other but to be better human beings. A perfect relationship cannot happen overnight. It is a lifelong pursuit.
I cannot give you a perfect partner because you are not. However, I will give you a partner who can grow along with you all the qualities you are looking for and become the PERFECT SPOUSE you wish for.

The secret of a happy married life is that, it has to be a team work by both of you to fulfil each of your expectations mutually. As it is rightly said:” Be to the other person as you would wish them to be to you”. So is the philosophy of marriage too.

If both of you understand this and work towards grooming yourselves, the PERFECT relationship will be achieved in a very short period of time. But if one of you is not ready to bend, it has to be the responsibility of the other person to keep showering their love so that the reciprocation happens some time. However, if both are not ready to bend, it is not the marriage that gets broken but the relationship. That is where the essence of marriage is lost.

Shyam: I understand that I have been so selfish in expecting only the other person to bend when I had not even considered grooming myself. This is indeed a wonderful insight that helps me understand that I have the sole responsibility to create the happiness which in turn will be reciprocated by my spouse and other people around me.
God: Absolutely. It is true that marriages are made in Heaven. But, Perfect relationships are not made in Heaven. They are created on earth over a period of time.